How to understand a Filipina?

I was reading a book that speaks more on "Language Barrier" that states that when a foreign individual settles to visit a foreign land, the ultimate problem that lies in every situation is the gap of how mutual understanding gets into their way. While reading the article, I come to ask if a male foreigner will love a Filipina (Filipino woman), how does understanding gets into their system that "language barrier" is not a hindrance to their love. But I will travel you, not to the kind of literal "language barrier", but I would let you take a ride to the kind of mood that Filipina always have so that there is a mutual, emotional communication that will build between the two of you and that "emotional barrier" is not a hindrance to your love-relationship.

A Filipina is sweet.
You may seem to take it as overly acting, but don't get her wrong. That is the kind of person she really is. If you are not used to it, then you should get along with it.

She is sweet to the extend that she wants you to be her baby all the time. She wants to serve you, cuddle you, wrap you with her ultimate love and embrace and never lets you hungry all the time. She will always make you want her naturally.

A Filipina is emotional.
Watch out! Don't be so frank in a point that you have to yell and missed up like you will say silly, bad words. F**k, b*** sh*t, n*n-s**nse, m*r*n, h*ll, b**ch, s**t and worse st**id are some of the words that can indeed break their heart and make them cry.

When you want to talk to a Filipina, be gentle, modest and frank and be sure not to utter those bad words. You can tell frank words directly, right at their face but with "TLC - tender, loving, care". Let them understand what you feel. Never keep them hanging.

A Filipina is friendly.
Again, don't think that their being friendly is a way for them to seduce you or get you more on your weak side. They are friendly because they are used to that nature at home that all their families are living in one roof and that they grow having their extended families at home with them too. The way they are involved with the various people at home is the kind of them that defines how friendly they are. Don't be so shocked when they are noisy when they talk especially to their co-Filipinos because that is how they communicate, always with feelings and actions.

And don't be surprised because they know almost all the names of the persons in the world. She is like an "international" person.

She can share smiles to someone even if she doesn't even know the person yet. Call them by their names. They find it too impressive if you know all her friend's names and the names of each member of her family.

A Filipina is a happy person.
Don't expect that you will never smile and even laugh when you are with a Filipina. That is her way of showing how happy she is. Being frown, lonely and sad are not cool to her. Always wear that smiles and laughters when you are with her because she never lets you go in a corner. You are important to her and seeing you happy makes her even happier.

Even she carries too many loads of problems, but still she can afford to smile and to let you smile.

A Filipina is understanding.
Don't get her wrong. You may think that she doesn't understand or she doesn't get what you mean. She is just so silent. She never speaks. Sometimes she just always say she is okay, but deep inside, she just keep something to herself because undersrtanding prevails more on her system. You don't know if she is hurt because she doesn't tell you at first.

But a Filipina is a jealous woman. That is why, don't make her day ruined because you don't know that why she is easily getting angry and you don't know the reason behind because in the first place, maybe you are entertaining most of your time talking to your other friends which she is jealous of. Her way of being jealous is an indication that she really loves you a lot. But if it is too much of the jealousness, then, I bet it is another story. :-)

All in all, a Filipina is like the women all over the world who always show her love and care for the man he truly, really love. Just don't get her wrong. Talk and be open and always wear that perfect smile with her. Don't be intimidated with her because she always understands.

What is your New Year's Resolution?

This question is often the kind of question being asked when the coming new year is nearly approaching or when New Year takes its first step in every January 1. This is often the question my teacher in my elementary and high school years made us a composition in our Formal Theme notebook. And of course, what would I expect that even until this time, this very same question speculates all over again and indeed, it is a kind of a serious one.

I have no New Year's Resolution. I never promise because I do beleive that New Year's Resolution is like a promise to myself that I can be able to do it and achieve what I will promise. It is because I don't want to expect and fail if I can't be able to attain them. That is for my own point of view.

To have a New Year's Resolution is cool for others, probably, but for me, it is blatantly not a fad. I just keep myself working with what I like without setting time that I can be able to do it or not, but with sacrifice and trys, of course, I can be able to achieve them.

It is more wonderful to attain a kind of promise if one really has to fulfill them and keep that promise for the rest of his life. But for me, believing in having a New Year's Resolution is like having a promise to fulfill in specific time within that year and I don't want to fail others if I can't be able to attain them and I don't want to fail myself as well.

My way is more like keeping what I want to do. If it is in accordance to my opinion, will or my perspective, then I have to make a big shot. If a thing doesn't go in par with what I believe, then I don't compromise doing them at all.

 

As I take a sit at the hospital’s lounge

I had my Titer shot yesterday. The officer-in-charge injected me. She got almost 3 ml. of my blood to fill the 3 ml. syringe. It was over and I asked her if when I could get the result, she told me within 2 hours.

It was 10:42 a.m. when I had the shot done, so I have to get the result at 12:42 noon time. I have  to wait for 2 hours then.

I don’t want to take a sit at the Laboratory’s couch. I went outside the office and there in the hospital’s central lounge, I find it comfortable to stay. I take a sit. I’ve witnessed numerous expressions of people’s reaction and most of them show frowns and worries.

Out from my stare, I was amused with the “gay” person who managed to put on his make-up even he was busily talking with his friends. They both laughed voraciously at their jokes. I was like silently keeping my smiles and hold them. Maybe they will think that I am seriously listening to them. Their loud voices made me stare at them. And it’s not my fault, of course.

Suddenly, there came this old man who was in a wheelchair. He just came out from the Emergency Room. I think he will be confined at the hospital. I saw him like really grasping for breaths. He wanted to stand and would like to get away from the wheelchair. He was reprimanded by his companion.

In a moment, an old woman who is with her son took a sit near me. Her abdomen is bulging. She is so thin. It seems like her abdomen when pricked will burst to erupt like a “volcano”. There were countless old people who were there at the hospital. Most of them walk in very slow pace, are stoop and lonely. They look tired and unhappy. There are those individuals who come and go, to and fro at the main entrance. Others took their nap at the benches. Children who were injected cried a lot. Their mothers tried to manage them really hard so that they will stop crying.

These vibrant scenes of expressions of sick people who suffer from various illnesses and diseases are the ones of the many faces that I have to encounter on my duty next year. This day marks me to prepare myself more and let my emotional side be in control for I don’t want to cry as I see these kinds of patients when I am on duty struggling really, really hard. I am glad that this scenario reminds me again to be more tough to face realities that softening of my feelings towards the situation must be modulated, instead my care should I give more of priority to of.

I know that it is normal to feel pity to these kinds of people, but I don’t let myself being drown to the kind of feeling that I will seriously let me feel in a way that I have to think about the situation all over again deeply which resulted to weaken me.

I know I can be of help to them. I will care for them and I will never let any instance of myself being too much emotional surface the whole process because I have to mind that my help and care for them are indeed in demand, urgently needed.

I don’t want to feel weak because they are already weak. I want to uplift them with the way I care.

Picturial during the Season of Christmas with my friends. (December 2, 2013)

 



Gift-Giving Activity at St. John Elementary School, Puntod, Cagayan de Oro City

We, the RLE 30 as well as the Midwifery students of Capitol University are on-the-go for the Gift-Giving Activity at St. John Elementary School at Puntod, Cagayan de Oro City. This was last December 6, 2013, a Friday.

 

The children really enjoyed playing with the games that we prepared for them. They happily received their individual gifts from us. We also served them with food.

Here are the captured moments of us:











Orientation at Capitol University Medical City with Dr. Annie P. Jacalan, The Nursing Director

Last December 11, 2013 (Wednesday) is our Orientation Day at the Capitol University Medical City, Cagayan de Oro City with the RLE 20 and RLE 30 students of Capitol University. Dr. Annie P. Jacalan is the one who gave us the Orientation. She discussed topics like the Hospital's Policies and Guidelines as well as its Vision and Mission, History of CUMC, their Services offered, the Nursing Responsibilities, Hospital Infection Control, the Do's and Don't's of the Responsibities of the Nursing Students On-Duty and many more.

I like the way Dr. Annie do her discussion. She delivers it well. I understand everything that she said. She also taught us how to do the IV preparation.

In the following pictures below are my friends and my classmates with Dr. Annie P. Jacalan, together with our instructors, Mr. Roy Andrew B. Ansale, RN, MN and Mr. Ramel B. Pacuno, RN, MN.

My Tatay (father) shed in tears. (Missing Christmas with us)

Christmas time for us, Filipinos, should suppose to be celebrated with families, physically present on the event of the celebration, but as of my Tatay (father), he celebrates it all alone, lonely without us.

We had a chat with Tatay yesterday evening. As I utter all the things we have prepared for Christmas, I was suddenly stopped for some time because there were tears on his face. And I asked, "What happen Tatay?". He said that he misses us so much and that his Christmas in the far away country is so lonely because there is no us in there to celebrate the meaning day with him.

I felt so lonely for a moment because every Christmas even those times when "Mama" (mother) is still around, we used to celebrate Christmas with all the love and happiness, lots of laughters and smiles, love and care. But now, my Tatay is on the other part of the globe, working for us as well. If I am that rich, I could have let Tatay be here with us this Christmas. I miss him so much. I wish I could embrace him personally for real. But distance permits us to be like this with our family because of our dreams. I know someday, I will be there personally for him and we could all spend our Christmas together with my sisters and my stepmother.

It is quite a sad fact that there are parts of our lives that we need to sacrifice for the fulfillment of our dreams and the realizations of them. My father is really old. He is 68 years old and 2 years from now, he will be turning 70. In that age, he should have traveled the world. But someday, I know I can make it for Tatay to be happy. It is just I miss him so much. He likes to eat Philippines' native foods like "Suman", "Bibingka", "Puto", "Banana-Q" and all those vegetables meal. He said that people in where he is right now celebrate Christmas like formally, there is silent everywhere in the place. And I was saying him that "Tatay, maybe you could spend Christmas loudier there." You have to sing the karoake. And he said, "It is totality different when you all are here to celebrate Christmas with me". That moment, I am almost in tears but I hold it because I don't want him to feel so much frustrated and lonely if he will see me crying too.

After we chat, that is the moment, I blew out. I cried.

I love my Tatay so much and I know one day, we will be together with my sisters and my stepmother again. I know it will surely come.